Hi ladies ~ would you be so kind as to post a LIE or two (or more!) that Satan has used against you in battling guilt and/or shame in your life? Whether past or present... just think about the LIES you've heard him speak to you over 'that issue' or 'that sin'. You know the issue or sin because he has tried to make sure you NEVER forget! Feel free to post anonymously if you'd like!
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Satan uses rejection as a stepping off point. He's sitting there waiting because opening our hearts to the fruit of the Spirit love, we are sitting ducks when it comes to rejection. Rejection can makes us hurt so deeply and longer than any other injuries (Prov 30:21-23). It also allows things we normally wouldn't do into our lives, like maybe another man's attention instead of our loving husband's. It doesn't even have to be so extreme as seeking another man's attention; but rather seeking another "god's" attention.
ReplyDeleteThe shame and guilt in this may take a few days or even years to fully accept. There is healing though in the power of Jesus :) I just need to make sure I always ask myself in all cases of rejection, "Do I trust that God will do something with my rejection?" If I'm not able to fully accept that--and I mean fully without even so much as a finger of mine on it--then I know I'll be okay. It is that time in between that I think I've given it over to God, when really I've only given part of it and want to work WITH God... do you feel me anyone?!
I guess I've ranted long enough and just thought I'd share my two cents :)
Satan has made me believe many lies over time driven by guilt and shame from things like... "Go ahead and eat like a pig, no one will know and if it makes you feel better, then what's the harm? You can do whatever you want!" This, of course to the detriment of my body, self esteem and even my health!
ReplyDeleteBigger lies are things like...
"You can let your family go a little, I mean after all your career is the most important thing, right? You've worked hard and you deserve all the accolades you can get with regard to your career!" Meanwhile my husband and child have suffered due to it and I have suffered because I didn't give or get the time we all deserved and I was left feeling guilty and shameful because I chose it over them.
Another one... "You don't have to tell him what you are thinking because you can handle it all yourself! You don't need anyone's help, not God's or your husband!" Again, I stick within my own private Idaho which diminshes my relationships with both. Guilty, once again.
"Just tell her that your kid is sick! That way you can make up for the fact that you didn't do what you said you'd do. She will never know." This deals with those times that I didn't deal well with the things that I had to do and chose something over my commitments leaving me unable to face the truth about myself. Guilty, guilty, guilty!
"It's your body, you can do with it what you want"
ReplyDeletethen after giving in to temptation...."If anyone ever knew what you were doing, you would never be able to show you face in public again! No one else does what your doing! You are disgusting and repulsive!"
Held captive by guilt and shame for years.
Praise God, Jesus knows me inside and out and LOVES me just the same! He alone can set the prisoners FREE!!!
Thank you and WOW - just reading these made my heart ache because of that old familiar feeling of being lied to myself!
ReplyDeletePLEASE keep them coming, ladies!!!!
You must be perfect or everyone will see what a failure you are. Your kids must do everything right or it will make you look bad. If something goes wrong it's all your fault, no one to blame but yourself. If you can't handle it all at the same time and be happy your're a failure. Don't tell anyone how you really feel they will think bad of you...these are just some of the things I deal with on almost a daily basis.
ReplyDeleteSome of my "favorites"...
ReplyDeleteYou are the only one who has done/thought/felt this. People would not understand.
You got yourself into this mess, why should God get you out of it?
She is a better Christian than you are.
You did that AGAIN?!?! Obviously you will never change.
God must be punishing you by causing this loss in your life. It's your fault.
Satan used to love to try this one one me:
ReplyDeleteYou're a failure, and you'll always be a failure. You're a burden to God and your family. There is no hope for you life. You should just kill yourself.
Wow! I have read all the blog comments and stopped and prayed for everyone that wrote. I must admit I can relate to everyone.
ReplyDeleteI have felt the sting of rejection, feeling as if I didn't and wouldn't ever measure up.I certianly think I can handle things myself and I dont need help. If anyone knew what I had done.... the list could go on..the guilt and shame could go on. But Praise God we don't have to be held captive by the shame and guilt. We ALL can be set FREE!! I remind myself EVERYDAY! I am free. Fully FORGIVEN!!
Take down our "masks" and let Jesus light our face!
"Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. And we, who with unveiled faces all reflect the Lords glory, are being transformed into his likeness with ever increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit."
2 Cor. 3:17 & 18
Bev
PS. I commented as Anonymous because I blogged without signing in (gasp!!) and couldn't figure out HOW to sign otherwise!!
Well, I have been looking for a group and this is obviously it.
ReplyDeleteI have hleard all the lies that I have read previously. I just thought that I was telling them to myself.
I never really thought that they were from Satan. Makes me slightly sick to know that I have had these thoughts enter my mind and never thought to pray them away.
Girls, I cannot even begin to tell you the depth of my love for each and every one of you as you share your thoughts here. With tear-stained cheeks, I am praying and BELIEVING that our God is going to do a mighty work among us. He sets the prisoners free and releases the captives from darkness!! If any of you are willing to play a small, but very important part, of our Ignite event on May 11th about Overcoming Guilt and Shame, please email me at: lindathomas34@sbcglobal.net
ReplyDeleteGod is going to use the information you have provided here to open our eyes and set our hearts free!!
Comments are still WELCOME!!!
Thanks so much, Linda
Well, I thought I was alone too.
ReplyDeleteMy biggest lie is "Why should GOD forgive you even though you asked for forgiveness from the person you hurt?" "You are not worthy of forgiveness."=shame. All the other posts on here, I feel as well. I am less of a mother than I hoped or thought I'd be=guilt. I am not as good a Christian as I hoped or want to be or better than the other person= guilt.
This topic of guilt could not have come at a better time for me. I have recently had a falling out with someone I truly believed was on the same page as me; I believed she really was a good friend. We had a fight and I said some things I should not have said and I have since asked for forgiveness and have repented with God and used this as a learning experience to become a better person. I truly believe I have been striving to be in God's will while I hoped healing was going on. She on the other hand forgives but doesn't forget. She wants to dismiss me as a friend and is openly rude to me. I feel I have done all I can do but when I get treated this way (and I see her daily) I always feel like there's always something I can do better to make this relationship better. I have become the "fall" guy and she still will take no responsibility for her part in any of this. I feel guilty because this was totally out of character for me and I guess this is the consequence of allowing Satan into my life. It has though helped me dig deeper and find the root of the problem and that is I am a major people pleaser. I am more than ready to conquer this beast in my life once and for all and do it without the guilt of hurting someone's feelings. I do need prayer ladies. This is a struggle I have dealt with all my life.
ReplyDeleteI just got this story in an email forward today, and it seems to totally fit with what we're talking about, so I had to post it!
ReplyDeleteThe Devil and The Duck
There was a little boy visiting his grandparents on their farm.
He was given a slingshot to play with out in the woods.
He practiced in the woods; but he could never hit the target.
Getting a little discouraged, he headed back for dinner.
As he was walking back he saw Grandma's pet duck.
Just out of impulse, he let the slingshot fly, hit the duck square in the head and killed it. He was shocked and grieved!
In a panic, he hid the dead duck in the wood pile; only to see his Sister watching! Sally had seen it all, but she said nothing.
After lunch the next day Grandma said, 'Sally, let's wash the dishes'
But Sally said, 'Grandma, Johnny told me he wanted to help in the kitchen.'
Then she whispered to him, 'Remember the duck?'
So Johnny did the dishes.
Later that day, Grandpa asked if the children wanted to go fishing and Grandma said, 'I'm sorry but I need Sally to help make supper.'
Sally just smiled and said, 'well that's all right because Johnny told me he wanted to help?
She whispered again, 'Remember the duck?' So Sally went fishing and Johnny stayed to help.
After several days of Johnny doing both his chores and Sally's; he finally couldn't stand it any longer.
He came to Grandma and confessed that he had killed the duck.
Grandma knelt down, gave him a hug and said, 'Sweetheart, I know. You see, I was standing at the window and I saw the whole thing, but because I love you, I forgave you. I was just wondering how long you would let Sally make a slave of you.'
Thought for the day:
Whatever is in your past, whatever you have done...? And the devil keeps throwing it up in your face (lying, cheating, debt, fear, bad habits, hatred, anger, bitterness, etc.)...whatever it is....You need to know that:
God was standing at the window and He saw the whole thing.
He has seen your whole life.. He wants you to know that He loves you and that you are forgiven. He's just wondering how long you will let the devil make a slave of you.